The Children In Your Wedding
Making your kids a part of your wedding is a great way to honor them.
If you have children from a previous relationship, or have other young family members, you might consider making these kids a part of your wedding ceremony. There are many meaningful ways for a child to be included. But since kids can be unpredictable, you'll want to make sure they are playing an appropriate part for their age, and that you've done everything you can to make them comfortable.

Whatever you do, be sure to be patient with children. They may get suddenly shy, or uncomfortable with what's going on. In the end, let them do as much as they are happy doing.

THE RING BEARER

The cute little guy carrying the white satin cushion, with the (usually simulated) wedding rings on the top, never fails to get smiles and "oohs" from the guests. He can be related to either the Bride or Groom.

Usually he ranges in age from 5-8 years old. He walks immediately in front of the Bride and Groom going up the aisle, and behind them on the way out. He must attend the rehearsal, but need not be invited to the bachelor party!

His parents pay for his cute little outfit that everyone thinks makes him look so-o-o grown up.

The little ring bearer can be a cute addition to your ceremony, but make sure he's a calm child and dependable, or he can quickly turn into an embarrassment to you. Make sure he doesn't get tired or frighten easily, and he's not the type who loves to demand attention.

THE FLOWER GIRL

And isn't she adorable, too! She's also in the 5-8 year range and can also be related to either the Bride or Groom. In years past, she used to scatter rose petals from a basket, but now she mostly carries a tiny nosegay, a basket of posies, or a flower-covered muff.

Like the ring bearer, she walks in front of the Bride and Groom going up the aisle, and is many times paired off for the walk with the ring bearer. She also immediately follows the Bride and Groom down the aisle after the ceremony is completed.

Her parents pay for her cute little dress, and she must also attend the rehearsal.

THE JUNIOR BRIDESMAIDS

Usually the younger sisters of the Bride and Groom are invited to be Junior Bridesmaids. These young ladies are usually 8-16 years old. They wear dresses similar to those of the bridesmaids, but simpler. They, too, should be invited to the bridesmaids' luncheon.

THE PAGES

If you come from a large family, and you still have some youngsters in the 5-8 age group that you would like to include (or are EXPECTED to include...you know how relatives are), you can invite one or two of them to be pages. These can be either boys or girls. Their duty is to hold the Bride's train while she walks up and down the aisle.

REMEMBER...the youngsters in your wedding are as much a part of the wedding party as the older members. Be sure to give them a gift too!